One of the books I’ve been listening to last few days is Flux by April Rinne. In chapter 8, she talks about how much time humans spend living the past and future as opposed to living the present. Plus, we humans experience negative bias - we tend to remember negative experience way better than positive ones and we dwell on them.
Reflecting on how I spend my mental energy and headspace, I’m realizing that I do live in the past and future most of the time.
I spend so much time thinking about, worrying about, and planning for the future. It’s like my present exists for the future. I also tend to replay the events that already happened - both positive and negative - over and over again.
So I asked myself this question: When do I truly live the moment? And here are some of the answers:
When I’m engaged in mentally stimulating conversations
When I give a talk, whether it being a live online session or an in-person session
When my hands are occupied with chore (like cleaning, folding laundry, or driving) while listening to good audio books
How do I do more of these so that I can be more in the moment?
Spend more time with the people whom I can have mentally stimulating conversations with
Public speaking is intimidating and I find that it takes a lot of time and energy. But that’s why I am so truly in the moment when I give a talk. And it is so exhilarating and rewarding. So, I need to find ways to do more of it.
Make sure to have a list of audiobooks ready so I can listen to them every moment I spend on chores